Unraveling Dynamics in Mediation

Insight into systemic and communication patterns within relationships and conflicts

Mayke Smit

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Unraveling Dynamics in Mediation

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ISBN: 9789078905981, geïllustreerd, 144 blz., September 2020, Engels

Uitgever: Brouwerij Uitgeverij de

redactie: Henriette Faas

illustrator: Guido Hirzmann

bewerkt door: Alice Altink

illustrator: Joop Wolff

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Unraveling Dynamics in mediation -

Insight into systemic and communication patterns within relationships and conflicts -


For mediators and other professionals involved in mediation or conflict resolution -

As a mediator, there is one important aim: to resolve the conflict for both parties in the most optimal way. Most of the time that works out fine. There are times, however, you can't seem to get a grasp on it. Or you think you've solved the situation and suddenly the dispute flares up again. Evidently there is more to it than meets the eye.


In Unraveling dynamics in mediation, Mayke Smit reveals the undercurrent that influences the interaction between people in relationships and conflicts. She guides you into the principles of Systemic work, shows you how systemic patterns operate, and she invites you to look from a systemic perspective in order to achieve sustainable solutions.

Smit distinguishes three levels of dynamics that are of significance in mediation:
• The family dynamics on an individual level
• The dynamics between clients
• The dynamics between clients and mediator

Subjects such as dealing with emotions, loss and communication patterns are covered as well. Smit describes various existing theories in a practical way for mediation in cases between two clients: divorces, labour disputes and neighbourly conflicts. By giving examples she illustrates how the theories and models can be applied with and without the use of table constellations.

This book is mainly directed towards mediators and other professionals involved in mediation or conflict resolution. It is also appealing to any other person who is interested in relationships and conflict. Throughout the book Smit offers suggestions for examining and reflecting on oneself.


Quotes:

“The systemic mediator guides parties beyond the conflict through an apparent systemic detour, which in fact brings faster and more precise recognition and resolution. And that takes courage from the mediator. The courage to ask "crazy" questions, and the courage to process your own patterns and background as well. This book helps nurturing your courage and expertise. ” - Barbara Hoogenboom, co-owner of the Bert Hellinger Institute Netherlands and former MfN registered mediator -


“Systemic thinking and working is the cement between all the knowledge and skills required in mediation. For this reason, we place it at the center of the training courses and for me personally it is one of the core elements in my mediations! ” - Prof Jan van Zwieten RI, RA, RO, MfN registered mediator

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over de schrijver(s)About the author

Mayke Smit

Originally trained and working as a jurist, Mayke Smit (1968) has been an independent trainer and coach for many years, operating from the philosophy of Systemic work, in which she was thoroughly trained. She guides professionals in their personal growth and teams in transformation processes.

While writing her debut 'Los' (2014) - a novel about processing divorce - Mayke developed a program for rebuilding one's life after divorce.

She is a licensed intervision supervisor for lawyers and mediators and provides training in Systemic work for mediators. The knowledge and experience that she shares, is what she describes in Unraveling dynamics in mediation, which is used in the Master Mediation and is published in Dutch and English.

Questioning the effect of the bond with her mother on her life, relationships, womanhood and sexuality, Mayke wrote 'Van je moeder moet je het hebben, van je dochter kun je het krijgen' together with her mother, Alice Altink. An in-depth addition to this book is 'Ins & Outs van het Moeder-Dochter-gesprek', in which they provide a manual for mothers and daughters to reach a more profound contact with each other.


www.maykesmit.nl
www.vanjemoedervanjedochterboek.nl
inhoudsopgaveContents
Preface
1. Looking from a systemic perspective
1.1. System
1.2. Four systemic principles
1.2.1. Order
1.2.2. Balance in giving and taking - exchange
1.2.3. Belonging – exclusion/inclusion
1.2.4. Destination and (de)finiteness
1.3.1. About patterns
1.3.2. Examining dynamics in systems with table constellations

2. Three levels of dynamics
2.1. Family dynamics on an individual level
Practical examples
2.2. Dynamics between clients: collusion in the relationship
Practical examples
2.3. Dynamics at the table between clients and mediator
External influences at the table

3. Common systemic patterns and collusions
3.1. Common patterns - Entanglements and disruptions in the system
3.2. Common collusions in relationships

4. Dealing with emotions and communication patterns
4.1. About emotions, bonding, coping, loss and the mourning process
4.2. Patterns in communication
From Infinite Negative loop to Positive loop
The four horsemen and the emotional banking account
The Drama Triangle
5. Roadmap for applying theory in the mediation practice
5.1. Start with yourself
5.2. Getting started
Step 1
Step 2
Step 3

6. Working with examples
Two divorce cases
A labour dispute between two business partners
A neighbourly conflict

7. Applying the theory without table constellations
Acknowledgments
Appendix 1 – Literature and Sources
Appendix 2 – Index
toelichtingUnraveling Dynamics in mediation -

Insight into systemic and communication patterns within relationships and conflicts -


For mediators and other professionals involved in mediation or conflict resolution -

As a mediator, there is one important aim: to resolve the conflict for both parties in the most optimal way. Most of the time that works out fine. There are times, however, you can't seem to get a grasp on it. Or you think you've solved the situation and suddenly the dispute flares up again. Evidently there is more to it than meets the eye.


In Unraveling dynamics in mediation, Mayke Smit reveals the undercurrent that influences the interaction between people in relationships and conflicts. She guides you into the principles of Systemic work, shows you how systemic patterns operate, and she invites you to look from a systemic perspective in order to achieve sustainable solutions.

Smit distinguishes three levels of dynamics that are of significance in mediation:
• The family dynamics on an individual level
• The dynamics between clients
• The dynamics between clients and mediator

Subjects such as dealing with emotions, loss and communication patterns are covered as well. Smit describes various existing theories in a practical way for mediation in cases between two clients: divorces, labour disputes and neighbourly conflicts. By giving examples she illustrates how the theories and models can be applied with and without the use of table constellations.

This book is mainly directed towards mediators and other professionals involved in mediation or conflict resolution. It is also appealing to any other person who is interested in relationships and conflict. Throughout the book Smit offers suggestions for examining and reflecting on oneself.


Quotes:

“The systemic mediator guides parties beyond the conflict through an apparent systemic detour, which in fact brings faster and more precise recognition and resolution. And that takes courage from the mediator. The courage to ask "crazy" questions, and the courage to process your own patterns and background as well. This book helps nurturing your courage and expertise. ” - Barbara Hoogenboom, co-owner of the Bert Hellinger Institute Netherlands and former MfN registered mediator -


“Systemic thinking and working is the cement between all the knowledge and skills required in mediation. For this reason, we place it at the center of the training courses and for me personally it is one of the core elements in my mediations! ” - Prof Jan van Zwieten RI, RA, RO, MfN registered mediator
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